Being genuine. What am I, if I am not genuine? On this blog, in my mind, with my people. I am an imperfect person. I have my weaknesses and my fears. I have my moments of absolute happiness and elation. The reasons behind either of these extreme emotions are so simple. Imperfection around me. Around each and every one of us. We need to learn to co-exist with the chaos, to silence the demons in our head, to live with the melodrama that each passing day poses to us.
Before I am branded of eternal cynicism, I do have some positivity at the end of this sentence.
In the midst of this mess that we have managed to make out of a seemingly simple life, there is that smile, there is that hug, there is that presence that makes it all worth it. It's really astounding that the vast majority of us barely even notice this presence, let alone thanking it, or reciprocating. We take it for granted and we complain that we have nothing to make out this complexity that we, in reality, have perpetuated. I am no different.
But there is this one thing by which I can guarantee happiness. In the true sense of the word. Terribly pompous claim for a 29 year old who has little to no life-experience, eh? Humor me and read on.
Stop focusing on what is lacking in your loved ones. Realize that you lack in a lot of ways too. You are less than perfect too. What matters, what really matters is this: Are they there for you when you need them? Do they love you for what you are and more for what you are not? Recognize these support systems, be there for them, treasure them. Genuinely try.
I will guarantee another thing too. It will be HARD. Loving things that are ours, that are jaded with time, is a hard thing. The mind is trained to see bad in what we have. To see fault is anything that is even close to perfect. It is within us, to calm the crazy within and choose to be happy.
At the risk of sounding terribly preachy, I will leave you with one thing: Today, before you go to bed, close your eyes for 2 minutes and sense where you are - literally and figuratively. I am SURE you will smile at what you know at the end of those 120 seconds.
